Not sure of the right forum to post on

[Colin Rowledge]

My story starts in 1829 and is still ongoing in 2010

9 months of active research with forum members + 4 years of piece-meal research has developed a - pardon the expression - 'god awful' life of a family in the 1840's Each generation - if the 1st born was a daughter - died young.

This trait continued and as a result, the sons in future generations generally didn't marry. If, after a difficult and unhealthy childhood. the remaining daughters survived, they also didn't marry. To my knowledge only one son in each generation married and if the 1st born was a daughter, she died young

It's a quite convoluted situation, has the potential to be a 'success story' based upon the dilgence of forum members, but also 'off-putting' to new members and those 'squeamish' about what they could find.

I want to share the research with others, but the 'public forum' may be inappropriate. Should I develop a profile and let others who may be genuinely interested contact me by email so that I can forward it?

This is my family - my dad being illegitimate is a direct descent [at least wer're 98% certain]

Another concern is that it involves my father, and the only person who is, outside of me and my married daughter, still alive and connected to this gene trait.

What to do --- or ---am I being dramatic?

Colin

[AdeleE]

Colin,

Opening thoughts...

I think you have already started to share your research with others, just by doing your work on this forum, and enlisting the aid of forum members to vet your conclusions. I think you've also been recently successful in outreach in that a blood relative has contacted you as a result of your postings.

Whether you continue to share your work here, or develop a private family tree website, (if that's what you have in mind), you would have to think about its purpose. If it involved connecting living descendants, there would be a fair amount of privacy management involved, e.g. does Cousin A want her details released to second cousin once removed B?

I think you have to mull over what you want in the long run.

[Colin Rowledge]

Thanks, Adele, for your insight. While I am excited about the findings I've shared with others on this site, I am also cognizant of how the 'end result' may affect others in just 'reading' the final post.

Colin

[v.wells]

Colin - I think you have done enormously well for such a difficult search. You should be very proud of yourself.|hug| You've been all over the world and back dealing with difficult names and hard to find people. I have'nt been able to help you with any of it but I have enjoyed reading the "fruits of your labours". You must be congratulated for your fortitude and you've accomplished so much in less than 1 yr (give or take the other 4) .

Now as to making it all public, does it really matter if it is?

Job well done :hurray: