Researchers who disappear

[Cati]

One of my pet hates: people who post useful information on one of the various forum sites available and then never go back: I'm trying to contact two at the moment, one on A******* who shares a 5xgg grandfather with me, and one on A****** and other boards who shares a 3xgg grandfather - and I know why she can't get any further back, because the marriage she is searching for is indexed under our common ancestor's middle name... and I could tell her where her greatgrandfathers' MI is...

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[Sandyhall]

One of my pet hates: people who post useful information on one of the various forum sites available and then never go back: I'm trying to contact two at the moment, one on A******* who shares a 5xgg grandfather with me, and one on A****** and other boards who shares a 3xgg grandfather - and I know why she can't get any further back, because the marriage she is searching for is indexed under our common ancestor's middle name... and I could tell her where her greatgrandfathers' MI is...

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look at it like this "Its her Loss"

Sandy

[Peter_uk_can]

Hi Cati.

I understand what you mean and I guess there are many more who would agree however I do continually remind myself that Genealogy is not like conscription, no one has to do it and we are all free to contribute or not as the mood takes us.

I used to get a little uptight too, and understatement seeing I was brought up not that very far to the south of you , ayup sithee and sumat else , but maybe the years have mellowed me.

Good luck with your research..... and stick around, there are a lot of very knowledgeable and polite folk on BGF. I have been around the genie forums block many times over the last 20 years, but this is by far the best.

:)

[Red Kite]

One reason why some people do not reply or return is that they have died. There must be many trees posted on the internet which have outlived their owners.

[Cati]

Oh yes, I do appreciate what you all say (and my post was rather tongue in cheek) but it's still frustrating when the person in question has been on more than one board within the last six months and doesn't appear to revisit any of them....:D

Still, it's better than the response 'can't be my relative, they'd never do anything like that...'|nutkick|

Or my ex mother in law who managed to trace her tree back to 1881 to an unmarried lady with a large number of children who kept a 'common lodging house' in Great Yarmouth...|jumphappy - after I suggested that the words 'knocking' and 'shop' came to mind, she changed to tracing the line of the family who were related to a bishop...

[Nicolina]

that's one form of selective breeding.
I had a similar experience with some-one on Genes who never replied. The fact that I could give them years work of research on "our family" is their loss. There are plenty of other cousins out there who are very happy sharing details of a fascinating family.

[Cati]

but did she ever tell the bishop's family about the - er - 'unfortunate' line of descent she'd found...:D

[Neil Wilson]

I had the same experience on MyHertiage. Two people with strong connections (one with over 100 matches) never responded to my requests to share information. Well it is their bad luck as I have unsubscribed from it.

[olliepolly]

ooh I hope no-one is trying to get in touch with me and I've ignored them!!! I wouldn't do that,not intentionally anyway, you gotta follow up any lead haven't you! curios as to the names now..... (from the first post)..
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[Angewozere]

I made contact with a grandson and his daughter on my elusive grandfather by mail {went through the phone book and sent letters}had a conversation with him on the telephone and he said that his daughter was doing the research and she would contact me !
She sent a very nice email and said as she was going on a weeks holiday the folloing week she would contact me afterwards I heard nothing for a while so contacted her again Again another polite email saying work was so busy etc etc and she gave me some info
The fact is the info which was from my elusive grandads 1st marriage her family, mine is from his 2nd family, was not even correct so I could of helped her.She didnt contact me again but as you all say its her lose not mine !