It pays to be a Pest

[v.wells]

After years of trying to get info from my cousin in England and finally becoming a pest over the last 2 years and especially the last year she had finally sent a long email with all the stuff she has found in her mother's papers. There are photos: one of my Aunt Daisy Walsh who was a nun and some of a family line I have had great difficulthy finding. She emailed the photos and it was my first time ever seeing them! It's wonderful to finally have a pic of someone you have been researching and being greeted by the inevitable |banghead|

She is sending it all by post: photos, copies of birth, marriage certs, old scripts of a tree ect.

Great news for me! |woohoo|

(This is after I told my sister to stop making excuses for other people as after this length of time, it denotes a great lack of respect and excuses are only platitudes for "I can't really be bothered") - She may have repeated this but I don't mind - It got the results I wanted, finally!:D

[Jan1954]

Oh Vanessa, how lovely! A veritable Alladin's cave awaits. Savour every moment! |hug|

[Peter_uk_can]

Hi Vanessa. Can you please write to one of Sharon's cousin's and see if you can get the same success.

In the last 3 years there have been some photo's on her desk that she promisees to send, but it snowed and then the car broke down followed by a fire in the basement and lighting hit the computer after which her daughter took them away by mistake and then went on vacation and moved house so they were in a box before returning to cuzzies desk but hubby had a fall and the dog died but that was before the computer crashed and the scanner won't work witb the new one now I have a bad leg and can't drive the car but has promised to post whatever it was as soon as the weather improves and they can leave the house.

Oh P..S I went to the mail this morning to send you the photo's but when I got there I remembered that I had left your address at home, so will mail them after we get back from visiting my brother.

[Davran]

Oh, Peter, how frustrating. I would be |rant|.

And Vanessa, how lovely for you! |jumphappy

Some years ago my mother, in her great wisdom, passed over several photos of her paternal line to one of her brother's sons, thinking that they would be the ones to carry on the name. Now, like Peter, I am having trouble extracting copies from him. At the moment I am being very patient.

[Peter_uk_can]

Quote Davran "Oh, Peter, how frustrating. I would be" |rant|.

But it does add to life's rich tapestry.. and anyway we are due to drive out west in month or so, so will make a surprise visit.


Now where did I put they key to the gun locker ....|idea|

[yorkshirecath]

Brilliant news!!!! Well done

[v.wells]

Hi Vanessa. Can you please write to one of Sharon's cousin's and see if you can get the same success.

Peter

What a litany of excuses! Send her money and tell her that you'll let everyone in the family know that she is a thief for taking the money and not providing the documents as promised! :D

We are getting to the age where time is a thief and we shouldn't accept b*s* from anyone! It's enough to drive you to |5cups|!

[Peter_uk_can]

Vanessa. I feel I may have been slightly inaccurate with the list of excuses quoted.

I am sure there were more.. |laugh1|


"Time is a thief" what a great quote....

[v.wells]

Vanessa. I feel I may have been slightly inaccurate with the list of excuses quoted.

I am sure there were more.. |laugh1|

|laugh1| I'm sure there were? But do offer money when you visit them next month! It might just shame her procrastination efforts.

Incidentally, I have just received another email from same cousin saying "no need for money" and she'll "get them into the post sometime next week" - We shall see, We shall see!|laugh1|

[v.wells]

Good news of a sort! Received certificates and education act statements plus some additions to my aunt/grandmothers memoirs last week. No pics yet "shall send at a later date". I had sent her money to cover costs.

Also included is a family tree for Harriet Deeks and her ancestors - don't really need it but if some one else does just ask.

My mothers' cousins' wife, whom I sent £ to with a list of 7 questions and sa envelope has failed to respond and that was 2 months ago! Apparently she forwarded the info sheet and letter to her son who has all that stuff and he has not responded. I am right ticked off about him.

So there is some joy:D with a bit of snarling |nutkick|

[Davran]

What's the matter with them all? Don't they realise how IMPORTANT it is to have the tree put together properly? I hope you get your info eventually, but how frustrating to know they have it and can't be bothered to give it to you.

[arthurk]

Possible interest here in Harriet Deeks. Can you tell me a bit more about her, please (when, where etc) so I can make a better guess as to whether she might connect?

Thanks,
Arthur

[v.wells]

What's the matter with them all? Don't they realise how IMPORTANT it is to have the tree put together properly? I hope you get your info eventually, but how frustrating to know they have it and can't be bothered to give it to you.


And the only patient people are DEAD ones!

[v.wells]

Possible interest here in Harriet Deeks. Can you tell me a bit more about her, please (when, where etc) so I can make a better guess as to whether she might connect?

Thanks,
Arthur

John Deeks (miller of Hadliegh) m Mary?
child John Deeks 1783-1842 m Mary Ann Read
children
John Deeks (miller of Hintlesham &Burstall
Robert Deeks 1819-1884 m Anna? 1814-1898 > 2 children
Daniel Read Deeks 1827-1911 m Caroline Aldred 1829-1907> 4 children
Harriet Deeks m Hames Purvis 1817 (upholsterer) >4 children
Margaret Deeks 1826-1896 m Thos Pryke> Margaret Pryke
.....................................m 1859 John Mussett (shoemaker)b 1831 >2 children


There are more names. Hope this helps:)

There is also a beautifully handwritten document list of Purvis births from 1806 - 1821 all baptized at St.George's Chappel, Windsor Castle

[arthurk]

No Deeks connections that I can see, but thanks for the offer anyway. It would be tempting to claim a Purvis connection just so as to get the other document, but I don't think I'd better ;)

Arthur

[jeanettemarie]

Oh, Peter, how frustrating. I would be |rant|.

And Vanessa, how lovely for you! |jumphappy

Some years ago my mother, in her great wisdom, passed over several photos of her paternal line to one of her brother's sons, thinking that they would be the ones to carry on the name. Now, like Peter, I am having trouble extracting copies from him. At the moment I am being very patient.

I know the feeling, Im still trying to extract information from my sister, who has all the information on my fathers side, that his sister had researched before she died, I have only been asking for it for five years, but there is always an excuse. The best one she was text a reminder a day before setting out t visit us , the excuse she got the text a day later|doh|

[Chisel]

Here's my suggestion if you can afford a laptop. I recently brought a laptop and portable scanner (thinner than the laptop) so now when I go on one of my geneology holidays I take them both.
And when combined with a friendly phone call "Hi... I'm in the neighbourhood this weekend would it be ok if I dropped by and scanned some of the photos?"

Be proactive, there's more than one way to skin a cat.|jedi|

[margarita]

I recently brought a laptop and portable scanner (thinner than the laptop) |jedi|

Could I ask for some more information on the portable scanner that you bought, as I was thinking of going down that route?

I presume it is robust enough to carry around. Do you get good results from it?

maggie

[Chisel]

It's a Canon LIDE 600F however this is probably no longer available. The canon site has similar models http://www.canon.co.uk/For_Home/Product_Finder/Scanners/Flatbed/index.asp

What I like about it is that it came with a 35mm negative attachment (not used often but might be useful one day) Is the same size as my laptop and best of all is powered through the USB port Ie. no additional power point needed.
http://www.canon.co.nz/products/scanners/scanners_low_medium_volume/canoscan600f.aspx

[margarita]

Thanks for that info, Chisel.

It sounds like a very useful piece of kit.

All I need now is the laptop to go with it!!

I think I need to persuade my husband that the combination would be useful for the local history project he is involved with here.

maggie

[Chisel]

Next essiential pieces of equipment are a dictaphone and gps.
Both toys I can hide from my wife through my business.;)

[Astoria]

My hubbie bought me a digital voice recorder for my birthday, fantastic, I can whisper in the library and it still picks it up.

[joycelyn]

I hope you get everything you need Vanessa. It is extremely frustrating when family members in particular can't be bothered to give you the info that's needed. I have asked a couple of my sisters and cousins for family information (recent info, I may add!) on BMD dates so I can update my family tree CD but all to no avail! I suppose I shall keep trying but the family is changing month by month and I really need all those dates.|banghead||banghead|

Pass the paracetamol someone!

Jo